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Can we use “ti amo” for expressing love between siblings?

And we use “ti voglio bene” for expressing love between two passionate lovers?

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    I wouldn't: StackExchange sites are not intended to express opinions. – DaG Nov 6 '15 at 20:44
  • Talking about these two expressions, that Italian derives almost identical from Latin, amare and bene velle, how not to let Catullus speak ([Catul. LXXII][1]; and [here][2] for a commented English translation). [1]:perseus.tufts.edu/hopper/… [2]:en.wikibooks.org/wiki/The_Poetry_of_Gaius_Valerius_Catullus/72 – Pietro Majer Dec 1 '15 at 23:37
  • (I slightly wonder who took the liberty of commuting my answer into a comment, and why) – Pietro Majer Dec 2 '15 at 22:54
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    I don't know who did that, but it makes sense, it's a comment. It's not abusive, quite the opposite: it's good moderation. – Mauro Vanetti Dec 3 '15 at 11:13
  • @PietroMajer: It is indeed a comment, and an interesting one at that, but does not provide an answer to the question, as it stands. – DaG Dec 3 '15 at 17:35
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Even though the verb amare is supposed to cover all meanings implied by the English verb to love, this is not how it is currently used. You would still say like this:

Ama il prossimo tuo come te stesso.

You shall love your neighbour as yourself.

You would start to sound slightly awkward, but still not necessarily incestuous, with a sentence like the following:

Amo mia sorella.

I love my sister.

But the serious problem arises with ti amo. This is a fixed way of saying I love you in a romantic sense, notwithstanding a long tradition of poor translations in movies. There are teens using the sentence in a "creative" way, like ti amo come amico or ti amo di bene, but it's more a way of being silly or overly sentimental or it's just a way of mocking wanna-be boyfriends being "friendzoned".

If you care for somebody in a non-romantic sense, go for the standard

Ti voglio bene.

I care for you.

This can be used in a romantic relationship, in order to highlight the more altruistic, tender (perhaps... extra-sexual?) side of the feeling felt for the other person.

Ti amo, ma ti voglio anche molto bene.

I'm in love with you, but I also care for you.

Actually, you could contrast amore e voler bene:

"Ti voglio bene ma non ti amo più", un libro di Andrew G. Marshall

"I Love You But I'm Not in Love with You", a book by Andrew G. Marshall

Don't be misled by the last example, though: to be in love is not always translated as amare, because the Italian language often uses essere innamorato as opposed to amare to express the nuanced difference between being in love and loving. The point here is that the underlying implication of using innamoramento vs amore by many speakers is that there are two distinct phases of romantic love: the early, exhilarating stage and the subsequent developments. I don't believe that this distinction is as popular in English-speaking cultures where you are expected to fall in love and then stay... down there. Actually, the two-stage theory has supporters everywhere but not all languages have it embedded like Italian.

Summing up:

  • voler bene = non-romantic altruistic love, caring for somebody
  • amare = romantic love (in general or later, deeper stage of it) or old-fashioned description of caring for somebody
  • essere innamorati = romantic love (in general or earlier, honeymoon-like stage of it) or infatuation of any kind
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Yes, it's possible to use "TI AMO" between siblings but normally it's used between lovers.

There isn't a specific environment where use only "TI AMO" or only "TI VOGLIO BENE". Maybe, it's possible to tell that I use "TI VOGLIO BENE" when I'd like put in evidence that I want give you something and I hope that you are fine. More times it's used by parents for their children, it's used between friends, ... Using "TI VOGLIO BENE" there is one I and one you but it's not necessary that there is one we.

I use "TI AMO" when I'd like to put in evidence that I need you to be fine and of course I want that you are fine to so that I'm fine. Using "TI AMO" it's how there isn't one I and one you but one we.

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"TI AMO" has a strong meaning. It's used between lovers, but there are many forms of love. A parent can say "TI AMO" to its child. When we say "TI AMO" it means the we are strongly linked to that person, we care care about he/she as ourself or more. "TI VOGLIO BENE" has no romantic meaning. It's less strong than "TI AMO", even if emotions are always involved. It means: I care about you and I wish you all the best.

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It's possible to use "TI AMO" for siblings, but it will sound very strange. It's used for lovers, or between a child and a parent, or for other few special occasions ("Gesù ti ama", "Jesus loves you")

"TI AMO" is a very strong statement: Instead, "TI VOGLIO BENE" could be use for a frendship relations, and no one will ever think that the people who said you "TI VOGLIO BENE" il your lover... but if somen

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